Do You Know What Makes a Good Relationship?
Begin by asking yourself if your relationships are like Tarzan & Jane or Adam & Eve?
Furthermore, what about generosity and does it play a role in happily ever after? Let’s take a look at a power couple who has it all together. This power couple makes the process look so easy and inviting: Tarzan and Jane, of course!
The Power Couple
If you haven’t had a chance to watch The Legend of Tarzan, I’ll try not to spoil anything, however, let’s just say Hollywood always knows how to deliver the dreamiest relationships, and the cinematography was fabulous.
Throughout the movie, we witness a healthy relationship between Tarzan and Jane with no signs of dysfunction (ok… it is Hollywood). For starters, the relationship displays the attributes of solid communication. Jane is allowed to express her opinion as to why she feels she should be allowed to accompany Tarzan into the dangers of the Congo. Jane is a woman of the new millennium. Furthermore, Jane clearly demonstrates she is more than capable of taking care of herself, even in the midst of challenging and life-threatening moments. Jane also has no doubt and complete trust that her man will always show up for her in her time of need. Jane can confidently spit in the face of anyone who holds her captive and tells her otherwise.
Generosity and Successful Relationships
So, what does this have to do with what makes a good relationship and generosity you ask? As Relaxed Relationships embarks on the 7th Pillar of Transformation, we are realizing in order to create successful relationships we have to put the cart BEFORE the horse. As such, Jane does not have to hold back her feelings. She is generous (with herself) when it comes to knowing she can discuss anything with Tarzan, and because she already believes in the outcome, her voice is heard.
Jane is also generous in trusting the process. She knows that she can completely trust Tarzan to have her back during her darkest hours. Jane’s generosity in seeing Tarzan for the man HE IS leaves us all panting..er…uh…I mean believing in him and cheering! And yes, she already pictured the rescue in her mind long before it happened (ok, so she already read the script upon accepting the role. . . small detail).
Furthermore, let’s not forget about her generosity with us – the audience. Jane has us fully engaged in the details of what takes place when she hears the “jungle mating call”, and although no one’s sex radar should be offended, it leaves men and women alike thinking . . .
”DAMN, HOW DOES HE GET THOSE ABS!”
What Makes a Good Relationship?
Ok no, maybe that’s not it. However, Tarzan does finally get the opportunity to rescue Jane from the jaws of death, and there is, of course, time for that ONE KISS (you know, the one that should change the movie’s rating). This one kiss is planted on her lips as he grips her with strength, conviction, passion, AND generosity, all the while (you guessed it), SWINGING FROM A VINE!
Furthermore, because Jane always, and so generously, sees Tarzan for the truth of whom he is . . . HE NATURALLY DELIVERS!
Easy right? Well, Hollywood certainly makes it look like happy endings are a breeze. So, what is the problem exactly? Why don’t our relationships unfold like a romantically written script with all the juicy cinematography? For starters, we are not descendants from Tarzan and Jane. We are descendants of Adam and Eve. You know the couple that “defined” the very first relationship and started the entire process of deceit, lies, and BLAME. Oh yeah, THEM!
Are Your Relationships like Tarzan & Jane or Adam & Eve?
So, that leaves a BIG GAP between the reality of Adam and Eve and the fantasy of Tarzan and Jane. As one is fantasy and one is reality (but which is which) and depending upon your plane of consciousness, this belief is actually influencing the outcome of your relationships.
If you think your partner never sees the “Tarzan qualities” in you, or you are always the generous one in your relationships with little or no return… Join us online for our FREE course as we discover the secrets of Love and discover how to change your perceptions (and relationships) to BE more like Tarzan and Jane. You will learn how to bridge your disappointments, and learn the truth about generosity so that every day can be filled with (eh hum) “kisses from the vine.”
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