The foundation of Relaxed Relationships is that we can only experience true growth when “relating” to others. This is obviously done through relationships; whether that be with your mate, your friend, your family, your business partner, etc. So, are relationships a necessity for personal growth? We have found the importance of relationship is not often valued, especially when it comes to personal growth and fulfillment. Not only do spiritual texts spell out the necessity to experience love through relationships but there is also new evidence that proves choosing the lone wolf lifestyle is hazardous to our health.
“Love Does Not Come Alone But In Relationship”
“This seeking of completion through oneness, this joining, is a true representation that shows you that completion does not come of standing alone but of joining, as love does not come alone but in relationship” ~The Dialogues
When I first read A Course In Miracles, by two psychologists determined to see life another way. I read a very deep book explaining the nature of reality, the importance of always being my higher self, and how to attain this spiritual transformation. The good news was that I could do it alone, or so I thought. Before I began to read the text I had to meditate. I had to reach a certain level of inner stillness to make it through a single paragraph. The teaching is so deep and profound. It speaks of illusions versus realities, and our fundamental error that we believe we are separate from one another. I fell in love with the book and its wisdom and found it spot on about who I was (when I wasn’t in a romantic relationship that is).
“Joy is a By-Product of the Relationship”
A friend suggested I read A Course of Love, by Mari Peron, which is the series following ACIM. Many are unaware of this sequel even today. A Course of Love talks about relationships and states things such as, “reality doesn’t exist without relationship”. As well as, “Those who do not enter unity and relationship cannot be helped, fixed, or shown the inaccuracies of their perceptions”.
“The Ark of Peace is Entered Two by Two”
As I near the completion of another round of A Course in Miracles, I have discovered a very enlightening message and one that clearly speaks to me differently and reeks of, ”get your A** in a committed relationship and keep it there.” Of course the message was in A Course of Miracles all along, as it mentions “joy is a by-product of relationships” and the “ark of peace is entered two by two”. Obviously, the text didn’t change, but I am just now able to read it from a different point of view. Reading and applying the text from within the devotion of a relationship changes everything . . . Changes life.
Are You Choosing Safety at Love’s Expense?
“This wanting to do things on your own is a trick of the ego, your pride a gift the ego demands”. A Course of Love
By the way, joy and peace are the highest planes of consciousness before enlightenment according to the scientific findings of David R Hawkins, M.D. Ph.D. through his work with Power vs. Force. So, it’s entirely possible that to transcend up the ladder of consciousness, relationships are indeed a necessity for personal growth.
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