Understanding the correlation between relationship issues and the Law of Attraction can be a confusing subject. Furthermore, when we realize that we are always creating it serves us to understand how the process works.
The Law of Attraction, which translates as “like attracts like,” states that when one focuses on positive or negative thoughts, a person brings those same positive or negative experiences into their life via the principles or rules of this law.
This belief is based upon the idea that humans, and their thoughts, are both made from “pure energy” and therefore “like” energy attracts “like” energy.
The Law of Attraction becomes activated when an individual reaches the half-way point or axis of the compass to your right (I”ll use all caps when referring to the compass). This axis signals that one is in a neutral level of consciousness. One must have a certain degree of self-esteem to arrive (and stay) on this plane. Although the law is “activated” in LEVEL 3, it’s important to note that manifestation occurs when one is in LEVEL 4. However, our ability to transform anything rests on TRUST.
You can discover how to integrate this process through The 10 Attributes of the Authentic Self.
Think about how you feel when you hear someone talking about the “Law of Attraction.” More than likely they have you excited about the prospect of money and the “things”. With this excitement of seeing what they have, you become HOPEFUL and OPTIMISTIC. You have the feeling that you can do it too (after all it’s just a matter of thinking positive right, and “they” make it look so darn easy).
Therefore, you work hard. You are WILLING to do what it takes to have the stuff, and with a lot of hard work, you can attain this goal! However, It’s important to note that if any time during this process life becomes DEMANDING or you are DISAPPOINTED in the results, you are moving in the wrong direction. Unfortunately, you are on your way back to LEVEL 2, and more than likely heading further down to LEVEL 1 if BLAME enters the picture at any time.
Acting “as if” brings to awareness the potentiality to actually become that which is admired. ~Dr. David Hawkins
Back to Willingness . . .
Ok, let’s go back to LEVEL 3 and the plane of feeling INSPIRED. You are HOPEFUL and WILLING feeling very OPTIMISTIC, and it’s time to set an INTENTION to move up the chart.
Next stop…Forgiveness. Forgiveness is the emotion one experiences when they have arrived and transcended the plane of ACCEPTANCE.
A Course in Miracles states; “Only Forgiveness Offers Miracles”. It is at this moment that you must fully ACCEPT everything that is happening before you can move into the miracle of The Law of Attraction.
So, you ask, how do I TRANSCEND this level to experience the miracle of The Law of Attraction?
Your Answer…THE RELATIONSHIP!
Unless you think that all your brothers have an equal right to miracles with you, you will not claim your right to them because you were unjust to one with equal rights.
~A Course in Miracles
Once you truly experience this magical process, you will realize it had nothing to do with having money to buy the things, as those “things” already belonged to you in the first place.
It’s important to realize the Law of Attraction is known to work universally on every plane of consciousness (uh-oh). So, let’s take a deeper look at how it comes into play when dealing with relationship issues. The challenges which inevitably arise in dating and relationships can leave us feeling angry, disappointed or anxious when it comes to navigating this so-called “universal energy”; thereby leaving us attracting more disappointing experiences like those of our past.
Often it seems that no matter how much effort is placed on thinking positive thoughts towards what we desire, we often get something else. As someone once said, “We become like a house divided against itself, which ultimately brings desolation.”
~Here are a Few Tips when it Comes to Navigating Relationship Issues and Using The Law of Attraction~
When it Comes to Others
– So, you describe yourself as level-headed, kind, polite, considerate, and filled with love. You are ready and willing to share your wonderful qualities with another. However, everyone you attract is an angry, jealous, hot-headed psychopath or withdrawn, and not much fun. In this situation, we are tempted to dismiss the other person as the one with “the relationship issues,” but according to the Law of Attraction, what you attract is a match to you. It’s important to realize that even if you don’t consider yourself a psychopath, you might still be dragging the energy of one along with you.
Do Something Different
When you consistently see negativity rear its ugly little head, it’s time to pause… and be WILLING to do something different. Furthermore, you have to break the pattern, and the only way to do this is if YOU do something different. So, if you react with anger, jealousy, like a hot-headed psychopath, or just withdraw and bury your head in the sand, you are perpetuating the negative energy…do something different! HINT: It looks a lot like ACCEPTANCE and feels a lot like FORGIVENESS.
– Think you can’t use The Law of Attraction for online dating? Think again. Universal laws are universal laws. First of all, know exactly what you want and what you want your relationship to resemble. It can be anything from a one-night-stand to a one-and-only. Don’t waiver. If the person or situation in front of you isn’t what you want, don’t do the, “oh this is ok for now until something better comes along.” Stay the course. Your vision, energy, and vibration must be consistent. HINT: You must ACCEPT everything that comes your way, as it is leading you down the path to discovering what you are capable of at the moment you engage with another. Bless everyone with whom you have an encounter. Hold a vision for others to meet the love they desire…even if it isn’t you.
Fake It Until You Become It
– We’re all human, and sometimes we just aren’t feeling up to matching the love, joy, and bliss we know is the requirement to attract a healthy relationship. Therefore, just do your best to stay NEUTRAL on the plane of TRUST. This means you don’t allow yourself the pity party in which you feel you are entitled. Just allow things to come and go without a reaction (sounds like ACCEPTANCE). Do things that make you feel better, say things to others that make them feel better, and repeat positive thoughts or affirmations. And always remember… Your inner atmosphere becomes your outer weather.
When it Comes to Relationship Trust
– According to our recent survey, the number one relationship challenge is TRUST! When we meet someone for the first time, we won’t have immediate trust for them. Furthermore, if we have a history of “hit and run’s,” we won’t trust ourselves either. So this refers more to trusting a process. Do you trust yourself to hold to the vision of what you want to manifest, or are you willing to settle until something better comes along? (Refer to the first description of “When it Comes to Others”). This is a process. It takes practice. Practice BEING (level 4) through the process of BECOMING (level 3) according to the relationship compass and the online learning curriculum of Relaxed Relationships.
The mind is its own reality.
You cannot escape the mind’s reality with the mind.
What’s the most challenging part for you using the Law of Attraction when it comes to navigating relationship issues? Feel free to share your comments below.