Following is a little relationship advice for men when it comes to understanding feminine power and getting your pants back in the dating and relationship world.
You see gentlemen, for women on the spiritual path, it can often feel like it’s a destined route to take alone. Furthermore, as God is masculine, women often develop very powerful masculine qualities. In addition, finding a man who matches this vision of “power” often seems impossible.
Word to the ladies. . . We have to challenge this belief, question what we consider “powerful” and most importantly, we have to question who we are and what God is. In the most simplistic definition, God is LOVE.
Because we are like our Source, this is our natural state of BE-ing as well.
Furthermore, I can speak first hand to how wonderful it is to feel God’s love through meditation and spiritual practice. It feels secure, empowering and sometimes complete. However, I can also tell you first hand it fails in comparison to having this love as part of your life in a physical form. Therefore, the relationship is the vehicle which allows us the opportunity to become Self-actualized. In other words, the relationship is our opportunity to bring the love of God into form.
On the spiritual path, it’s simply about recognizing the truth of what we are. Furthermore, when we experience the truth of ourselves by seeing it in another, this is when we remember love.
Most noteworthy, there is a verse from A Course of Love that always stirs me. After my recent experience, I completely understand what this verse is really about. Not to mention, it’s great relationship advice for men and women alike. It goes like this . . .
What love is cannot be taught.
It cannot be learned.
But it can be recognized.
Can you pass love by and not know that it is there?
In addition to part one of this story Wearing the Pants in a Relationship , I’ve shared how the process of The 10 Pillars of Transformation have been playing out for my Beloved and myself. Consequently, my guy was dealing with some career things over the past several months and the direction he wants to take his future. In addition, I shared that patience was a big part of my transformation and learning how to trust a process was a new way of “being” in a relationship for me.
During the past several months, while embarking on the 10 Pillars, I witnessed what masculine strength is and as a result, have a deeper understanding of real power.
You see ladies; we are so conditioned to believe that a man always has to be riding that white horse at all times. Therefore, we always want to feel like he has everything figured out. This belief makes us feel safe and secure, and we believe it is something in which we can place our trust. Or so we think.
It’s time to write that “Dear John” letter to our skewed vision of masculine power.
Furthermore, while my Beloved was naturally doing what a man does (which looks a lot like willingness, swallowing his pride, and accepting everything that life shoveled his way), my only job was to BE love. Not in the sense of “oh honey please figure it out and take care of me so I can start loving you again” because we all know we are done with that sh..stuff. As such, this is a level ONE relationship. A level THREE relationship, however, is when two people are allowed to figure their stuff out. Most of all, we will never find fulfillment unless we are allowed to be individuals within the context of the relationship.
This process looks a lot like what society would deem as weak,
vulnerable and not very sexy.
My Beloved has always been someone who is genuine and kind and therefore, the words, “how can I help?” begin almost every sentence out of his mouth. Even through the most challenging times, he never compromised his integrity. His inner strength was incredible to witness and to the degree, he was willing to do whatever it took to make things happen, I admire greatly.
Furthermore, I have been sharing this process for the past several months and so much of The 10 Attributes of the Relaxed Relationship is the inspiration as a result of what we have been experiencing in our lives. Most of all, as I have been telling ya all, the process of integrating the 10 Pillars requires you to get out of the way when a challenging moment arises, as such, lips are shut and mind is open. It’s important to note, this is the plane of neutrality on the Power vs Force chart.
To practice this stuff, you simply need to be the conduit which allows for a higher process to take place. That’s it.
As a result, feminine power ignites when we just allow things to be what they are. Therefore, the unity we cultivate with the Divine permits the power of the universe to work through us as open channels.
Most noteworthy, feminine power moves like the strength of a fast flowing river. It winds and bends around obstacles, always moving and never rigid. As a result, it is the power of the masculine which guides us like the river banks, gently whispering “move this way, follow me and everything will be ok.”
Most of all, it sounds a lot like the voice of the Divine.
“All things are echoes of the Voice for God”
~ A Course in Miracles
Furthermore, when we show up with our judgment of how things are supposed to be and the disappointment when things don’t go our way, this builds a damn, shuts the portal, and closes the conduit. Therefore, every time, the love story will end in tragedy.
As a result of this process, my guy recently received SIX different business opportunities. All presented to him within days of each other. Some of the offers are paramount things. Opportunities that will impact the lives of many and provide a better life for individuals who have little hope. Offers which are a culmination of his experience, knowledge, integrity and power.
The reality of earning the qualities of the 10 Pillars is this:
– If we don’t see the strength and power in the one sitting across from us . . . We are denying ourselves.
– When we do not offer up generosity and acceptance of another . . . We are denying ourselves.
– Because we do not feel compassion and understanding for others . . . We are denying ourselves.
In conclusion, when we accept someone for who they are (their triumphs, failures, gains and losses), we are beginning to see through the illusion to the truth. Furthermore, this same process is used to understand who we are and experience “oneness.” When we learn to accept everything about one another, we begin to integrate this aspect into our personality.
This is a process. Integration takes time and practice.
It is not as simple as it might seem and most of the hidden aspects are sub-conscious. It is part of the mystery of life which keeps us growing and seeking.
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