What is the real impact of little white lies of dating and relationships, and should we be concerned? After all, it’s just the “little” things.
“First take the log out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.”
Well, C’Mon now, does this saying apply when we are talking about just casual dating and short-term relationships? Or do you mean long-term partnerships only?
Regardless of the situation if we go around yelling “liar liar pants on fire” we aren’t exactly setting ourselves up to be a love magnet.
Relaxed Relationships has been coming together for several years as a group of individuals interested in learning how to apply Kinesiology to dating and relationships. Furthermore, we begin to understand how even a little white lie will make a person go weak and lose touch with their personal power, but doesn’t it sometimes seem that lying has become a natural part of dating and relationships?
In addition, below are some of the scenarios our members have shared when it comes to telling little white lies in dating and relationships:
“Why the need to lie? Do these people think the truth won’t come out later? Hmmm, you lied about your age, what else are you lying about?”
“Integrity starts with the little things in my book. Furthermore, he should know you can’t fool a woman on something like that!”
“Well, my experience in dating and relationships is that people are afraid. Once I meet them their age, weight looks, etc. are different from stated. His experience is that once a lady knows his age they pass on by his profile and put him in the nursing home category.”
“I would have preferred for the 65-year-old to have ‘fessed up during our breakfast, instead of me just silently thinking he looks older than 58. He specifically told me he turns 59 in a few weeks, so a blatant misrepresentation like that is a deal breaker.”
“When a woman tells little white lies we (men) smile acceptingly in hopes of lavish affection to follow. Like sweat, women do not lie but “glisten.” When men lie we must confess our guilt and apologize profusely and agree we are dogs and must never say that again, even if it was the truth.”
“Absolutely consider motives and a small lie is the same as a big lie, etc., but the lesson here is about letting go of “shoulds” and expectations and experience the lesson for the day/week/month. This is important when it comes to dating and relationships!”