Choosing Safety At Love’s Expense
Are you choosing safety at loves expense is an important question to ask on the spiritual path …
You see, all of us, whether we know it or not, are always seeking to grow spiritually and experience wholeness.
Therefore, as we climb the ladder of consciousness we reach a certain level whereby we experience a state of “self-love”. One displays healthier self-esteem on this plane and will no longer tolerate being treated poorly in relationships. This all sounds really great, however, it’s important to mention, A Course in Miracles refers to this level of self-love as a “special” relationship.
The special relationship is not Self-love which is anchored in One-ness. It is self-love that becomes enamored by aloneness.
As one becomes more evolved spiritually this transfer of “specialness” to one’s self will occur after many disappointments in others and/or love. In addition, it feels good to have independence and also feels highly evolved. However, this transference of specialness from another to ourselves is a clever trick of the ego which has us unknowingly …
Choosing Safety At Love’s Expense
This self-love occurs when one “falls in love” with themselves. It is an important part of the journey to Self-actualization. This self-love feels liberating, enlightening, and complete, but only in comparison to the lower levels of consciousness. You know, the lower levels (also known as illusions), that include blame, anxiety, regret, anger, desire, entrapment and let’s not forget disappointment.
You will know you are experiencing this level of self-love when you feel like you have things figured out. Life really seems to be going your way. You are “in the flow”. You relate to and understand spiritual texts which refer to the state of “being”.
Life feels Complete and Serene
This is the level of consciousness whereby life feels very satisfying, and the Law of Attraction is activated.
This sublime state is the experience when we meditate or participate in a spiritual practice such as yoga. It’s important to realize, Transcendental Meditation (TM) and Hatha Yoga both calibrate at the frequency of 295 when muscle tested which is only the midway point when it comes to the 17 levels of consciousness of science and the bottom of level 3 of the Relaxed Relationship Compass.
This level 3 consciousness is better known as the state of “becoming” according to A Course in Miracles. One can go out into the world and feel the connection to the clerk working at the local store. Strangers smile back with a brief sense of connection. In addition, one won’t feel a need for a committed romantic relationship because there are moments when nothing feels to be missing.
Yes, I said “Moments”
You are welcomed to stay in this comfortable state for as long as you like. A lifetime if you wish.
However, I want you to begin paying attention to how much time you spend thinking about NOT being alone and/or single. Furthermore, if you are in a relationship or marriage do you think about having the freedom to keep your options open?
It’s interesting to mention, Match.com has over 24 million members, and Ashleymadison.com, a website for those in a marriage or relationship looking to have an affair has more than 57 million members.
Therefore, pay attention if you consistently find yourself in romantic fantasies thinking…
“What if…?” or “Wouldn’t it be nice…?”
When such thoughts arise it is important to ask yourself this one question, according to A Course of Love,
Are You Choosing Safety at Love’s Expense?
You see, fear is always at play when we value something that we believe can be threatened. Such as our freedom.
Do I Need to Mention that Fear is the Opposite Plane of Love?
For love is treacherous to those who fear, since fear and hate can never be apart.
~A Course in Miracles
It is our fear being activated when we feel the threat of losing our autonomy. In addition to losing the freedom to do what we want when we want. We are in the grips of fear when we push others away who disrupt our bliss and peaceful serenity. Furthermore, say hello to the illusion of False Evidence Appearing Real anytime you feel you are “special” and therefore more evolved than another.
It’s easy to recognize this level of consciousness if you find you are protecting this “specialness” and/or aloneness. You will find yourself thinking, “There’s just no one at my level“. Or the thought I wore out when I was terminally single, “I’m just too busy for a relationship“.
This also applies to those already in a relationship or marriage who desire to keep their options open or have an affair. In addition, if you are looking for someone special, like a soul-mate you’ve just created another avenue for a “special relationship”.
Therefore, the above scenarios are often chosen in lieu of choosing love. Each challenge is the opportunity to work through the issues (your issues). Such issues are illusions created by fear, anxiety, and disappointment (of your past). We don’t see others as THEY are, we see them as WE are. Therefore the challenge, and opportunity for spiritual growth, rest upon us to see others through the eyes of love (better known as our highest Self). As a Course in Miracles states (a lot), There is nothing outside you.
It’s important to mention that on the path of personal fulfillment and the journey to integrate the Authentic Self
Love Seeks to Share Itself,
Joy is the By-Product of Relationship,
The Ark of Peace is Entered Two by Two.
The three “attributes” I just mentioned are found in level four of the Relaxed Relationship compass and refer to the state of BEING one’s highest Self (capital S), this is also known as the 5th dimension whereby Real Love and authentic relationships reside.
Devotion to the Reality of Relationships Gives Us The Opportunity To BECOME What Real Love Is
Inspired by the Many Different Levels of Consciousness, A Course in Miracles, and A Course of Love.
Test-driven for Accuracy and Injected with Experience.
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