The 10 Attributes of the Authentic Self
When it comes to integrating trust there is a 6 step process. Without realizing it we all have been down this path many times, but unfortunately, make a U-turn before the process can be completed. Hmmm, and what is the definition of insanity? So, it's no surprise the number one relationship challenge is trust. Oh, and by the way, our ability to transform rests on trust>>>
When we ask our members how they would define being honest when addressing a relationship challenge they always begin with something like, “Hey, I want to talk to you about something that’s going on, and I’m going to be completely honest…” Now, most of us would agree this appears to be a gentle and direct approach to addressing one’s needs within the context of the relationship. Right? However, this is not honesty as defined by the attributes of the authentic Self - This is abdication>>>
On the path to transformation, the very act of judgment destroys honesty and shatters trust. When it comes to tolerance, the power to endure through the process of dating and relationships depends on our ability to use discernment instead of judgment, which ultimately leads to self-deception or self-actualization>>>
How can we be gentle with others in confusing situations of fear, anger, and suspicious motives? Can compassion and gentleness be our mode of operating when these situations put us in a complete state of vulnerability>>>
If you are single, you want to believe that joy is something that you cultivate and experience from within. It would be inconvenient to the single lifestyle if joy were the by-product of a relationship>>>
We might feel less vulnerable when we show up in a position of defensiveness when it comes to navigating love. However, this is actually a sign we do not trust ourselves. Reminder, our ability to transform rests on trust>>>
By now, as we embark on the 7th pillar of transformation, we are realizing in order to create successful relationships we have to put the cart BEFORE the horse. I personally have been enjoying the expansive feelings which have been increasing as I move up the ladder of the ten pillars. If there is one experience in which I appreciate the most about the relationship with my Beloved it's the non-stop laughter. In addition, creativity is endless. The insanity of it all is viewed through the lens of humor. This light-heartedness keeps us feeling the serenity of joy. Keep reading to see what I mean...
The truth is, many portals to love will open throughout our lifetime. However, we miss these opportunities as there is something that must take place between the first pickup line, and the time it takes leading up to the realization we have something meaningful, fulfilling, and everlasting>>>
You see, here’s what we do: we try to be faithful to some things, but not others. When we enter into a relationship, we subconsciously say, “I’m going to love you as long as you meet my needs.” When we think this way, it is a projection of ourselves in that we are the ones wavering from our faithfulness>>>
Forgiveness is the single aim of the authentic Self and the final goal of The 10 Pillars of Transformation. Furthermore, as open-mindedness links to lack of judgment, we can understand why forgiveness plays such an important role on the path to Self-realization>>>
The Process of Moving through and Integrating each of these 10 Attributes Leads down the Path to Discovering...
Love has no attributes, which is why it cannot be taught. Therefore if love cannot be taught but only recognized, how is this recognition made possible?
Through love's effects. For cause and effect are one. Creation is love's effect, as are you. Discover More...
Love is Not Something You Do.
It's What You Are.